Timing is Everything

Timing is Everything

I’m a firm believer that anything is possible…. …but it has to be the right time.

Let me tell you a story…

I’ve had a long push/pull relationship with body image like many other women.  I’m not sure when it started, probably in my teens, and since then it’s been pretty much ever-present.

Sure, I’ll rationalise it – I even wrote a book about it!  And in that book I talk about priorities and how even though we may think that we are chasing weightloss, what we are actually seeking is something even more important and connected to our core values.

And I stand by that 100%

But at some point, the priority always swings back to me wanting to lose a few pounds.

To make it stick though, the timing has to be right.

And that’s the same for anything.

But how do we know if the timing is right?

That’s the tricky part.  Because you see, we are designed for the status quo – to stay exactly where we are!

We have this ancient fear centre in our brain that is actually running the show, and whenever we want to change something, whether it be losing weight, starting a business, entering that talent show or going for promotion.  Whatever it is, your fear centre is going to kick in and give you a dozen reasons not to do that thing, for every one reason you can come up with.

The way to tell that the time is right for you is when the discomfort of staying where you are is more than the discomfort of what you need to do to change it.

Until then, that fear centre is likely to win through.

When the balance shifts the other way and the pain of the status quo seems too much to bear, then everything becomes so much easier.

The Right time to make a change

 

Oh, and by the way, the shift happened for me about 3 months ago and I am pleased to report that I am 20kgs lighter now than I was then!

If the discomfort of not making headway in your life or business is becoming more uncomfortable than taking a leap and doing what you know you need to do, then get in touch and let me help you through the process.

The Magic of Giving Yourself Two Years

The Magic of Giving Yourself Two Years

Clients ask me all the time, ‘How long will it take to be a success?’ Now of course, I can’t tell them. But what I do say is that when I got really serious about my business and knowing truly, deeply that it was how I wanted to live and make my income, I committed to showing up every…single…day for two years. It was the bargain I made with myself.  If, after those two years, I could not see a way that my business could be the success I dreamed for it, then I would walk away, knowing in my heart that I had given it my best shot.

Shifting Focus

Because up until then, I had had one foot in it, and one foot in my corporate career. Which meant that every time I got the entrepreneur blues (and we ALL get them), I would just shift focus to my career for a while.  Every single time though, I would get restless again and crave my coaching business, my writing, my teaching.

For me, giving myself those two years to make it work meant that I could release a little pressure of replacing my income and the scarcity mindset that would create.  It gave me permission to stay in my day job and use the income to invest in my business. It gave me the focus to create my own rules in what would work for me, around my commitments.  And it gave me the confidence to step up because now I had a deadline.

Create your own rules

 

The First Two Years

And over those two years I worked hard, I took clients in timezones that meant I could meet them early in the morning before I went to work, and later in the evening when I got home.  I wrote, and wrote and wrote when I was stuck in hotel rooms for work, rather than socialising, and I spent many of my lunch breaks on discovery calls, meeting with my coach or listening to webinars.

After the two years, my business wasn’t generating my day job income by a long stretch, but I knew it was time to let it go.  I had some health issues that my day job was not helping with, and I was likely to need surgery. My parents were also coming over to New Zealand from Scotland and I had no annual leave left to take while they were here for 6 weeks (which would turn out to be the last time I saw my Dad in person).  The internal pull to walk away was immeasurable, but it was so damn hard to walk away from that paycheck. (I used to call my day job my ‘golden handcuffs’. )

I remember making the decision and sitting in my kitchen just letting the tears come.  That was when I knew things had shifted.

And scary as it was, I am so glad I did.

The Next Two Years

I am now 2 more years down the track and my business is thriving.  I am working on a couple of opportunities that are also both 2 years in the making and will be the biggest and most exciting offerings that could catapult my earnings beyond my wildest dreams.

Without the patience and persistence that I have learned from my ‘2 year experiment’, these seeds would never have even been planted.

Let your business flourish

 

I have since shared this with many of my clients, and they too have prepared themselves for what seems like the long haul at the time, but often flies by.  And I am thrilled to report that many do not need to use the whole 2 years to build the momentum they need for their successful businesses, but they are prepared for it.

How about you?  Did you give yourself a couple of years to get your business off the ground?  Or, are you at the beginning stages and wondering how long it will take?