What are five ways a coach helps you to succeed?
I’m going to tell you five techniques and approaches that a coach uses. You can apply these to your own challenges and problems so that you can succeed better without a coach. Or you know what to expect when you hire one.
So what are the five things that you can expect when you work with a coach.
1. What do you want to change?
First of all your coach is going to need to understand and really get to grips with what it is that you want to change, because coaching is all about changing.
“Moving you from where you are now to where you want to be.”
A description of coaching that I absolutely hate but it is true.
So the first thing that a coach is going to do is to understand what it is that you want to change.
2. Change your focus from problems to solutions
The second thing that your coach is going to do for you is help you to really shift that problem focus to a solution focus. Usually when we want to change something, we’re focused on the problem. There is actually good reason for this that is backed by neuroscience. You see we are all predisposed to have a negative bias; it’s what keeps us safe, so if you think that maybe you can be a bit of a negative-nelly at times, relax, you’re doing exactly what you are designed to do!
A solution focus is also known as a goal focus and that’s why coaches are always working on goals.
So your coach will help move what you want to change from a problem to a goal or solution.
3. Core Values – You know this, right?
Now the third thing that your coach is going to do, which seems a little bit backwards, is that they’re going to give you an experience of understanding what your core values are.
You may think that you know what your core values are.
I have been doing this for 11 years, so believe me when I tell you that what you think your core values are and what they actually are, is more often different than you would expect.
There are reasons for this difference.
Basically we’re given our first set of core values by our parents, our teachers, our influencers and our peers. Then, as we get older and as we have our own life experiences, they start to change.
Often when it comes to the point where clients feel stuck enough to engage my services it means that there’s a bit of a values conflict going on.
So I will always give my clients an experience to find out what their core values are. This is important because that might have an impact on the fourth thing.
So before we get ahead of ourselves, number three is understand what your core values are.
4. Goal Alignment
So the fourth way a coach will help you success is to take your core values information and check in with the goal that we created in the second step.
Let’s make sure that your goals are aligned with your core values, because once you’ve had that core values experience, sometimes the goals have to change so that they remain aligned with your values.
5. Progress and actions
The fifth thing that you can expect from your coach? Well that is progress. They will work with you to help design small manageable actions that are going to take you closer and closer to that values aligned goal.
So there you have it. Five things that your coach will help you with or that you can have a go at working on yourself.
- Understand the change you want to make.
- Shift it from a problem focus to a solution focus.
- Understand what’s most important to you.
- Check in with your values and make sure that your goal is aligned and then
- Design those actions that are going to move you towards that goal.
Let me know how you get on….
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