I know, I know you’re far too busy to read this blog post.
There’s just so much to do. You’ve got work. You’ve got kids. You’ve got parents. You’ve got pets. There’s pickup, drop-off, reading, learning, exercising, laundry. The list goes on and on.
There is just so much to do.
When was the last time you actually checked in to see if all of this busyness was taking you closer to or further away from what you really want? Have you ever done that? Or are you just got caught up in all of the busyness?
Are you heading in the right direction?
It’s so easy to get caught up in the busy-ness and the minutia of day-to-day life that we can lose sight of what really matters to us as individuals. And knowing what you want at that high level, allows you to check in and make sure all that day-to-day busy-ness is actually taking you where you want to go.
I talk to far too many people who have done all the right things and suddenly end up in a place without knowing how they got there and don’t like where they have ended up.
Big Goals and Little Tasks
Let’s talk a little bit about big goals and little tasks. In coaching we work with two different levels of tasks or actions or goals. Initially we talk about this high-level goal, the stretch goal sometimes it’s called. This is this overarching theme of what you want in your life. It’s probably not quite within reach right now but that’s okay because we can get you there.
Your coach will make sure that you’re completely aligned to this goal and what that means is that it’s not just a head goal. It’s not just something that you intellectually want. It’s a heart goal too. It’s something that is really important to you at an emotional level. Sometimes we can set goals that we think we SHOULD want but actually they’re not something that we want in our heart.
Once that you’ve got that goal aligned with your head and your heart, it’s a coach’s job to make sure that some of your day-to-day tasks are helping move towards your goal, those things that are going to fall into your day-to-day to-do list along with everything else like the laundry and the email and the kids and the exercise and the pets and all of that stuff.
What do I really want, in my head AND my heart?
As coaches we’re working at two levels. Holding that overarching goal and keeping that aligned with our clients and making sure that they’re taking the right action towards it. That way you can be sure that in amongst all the busyness you’re taking steps towards what you really want.
You don’t need a coach to be able to do this, although of course I recommend it. You can take five minutes out of your day and just stop and think what is it that I really want, in my head and in my heart? And is what I am doing day to day getting me closer to that or further away from it?